"No, I don't thank you for the fish at all" (notindetroit)
12/19/2015 at 01:18 • Filed to: pathetic advice needed
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"No, I don't thank you for the fish at all" (notindetroit)
12/19/2015 at 01:18 • Filed to: pathetic advice needed | 1
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...but, it’s something I need to ask, so here goes. *Deep breath* *sigh*
...how do I get a girlfriend?
Now, I’m not a total noob at it. I’ve been on dates and had girlfriend, geez. The last relationship I was in was three friggin’ years ago and that was an abject disaster. I’ve been on tons of dates since - and each and every one of them sucked, with me going back home thinking I could’ve been at home watching Good Luck Charlie instead. Seriously.
So I’m kind of burned out on OkCupid, Plenty of Fish, Tinder, all the other online stuff because sea of shit. So, um, yeah.
Also if I had to go back to online dating, uh, how do I built an effective profile that doesn’t suck crap through a straw?
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> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 01:27 |
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I tried going to parties and tinder and other such things, but I just lucked out because the love of my life happened to live just a few doors down from me. I honestly just tried being myself and found a girl who was as big of a dork as I was. I know this is literally the least useful advice, but sometimes shit just works out!
Steve in Manhattan
> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 01:34 |
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Let your friend/relatives know you’d like to meet someone. I got fixed up 11 years ago (by a former girlfriend) and we’re still together. Her feet are in my lap right now. It’s old-fashioned, but it just might work.
Cherry_man1
> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 01:36 |
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I will be honest I don’t even know how I’ve had the relationships I’ve had. My relationship history could almost be written as a tumblr drama in a few ways. It’s been hard for me to get relationships only because of my birthmark and either I’m too shy or they are too shy to talk to me w/o bringing it up.
My current relationship sprouted from a 3 year friendship with this girl I’ve known and we both have just been genuine at all times. We also got separated because I moved to Kansas City but I’m closing the gap next semester.
Just be real man. As for the Profile stuff....I don’t know because I’ve never made one before.
Baeromez
> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 01:44 |
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If you’re even asking this then you’re probably just not in the right mindset. I know I’m terrible when meeting women unless a certain wavelength just clicks in. I don’t know, it’s hard to explain. If you had a girlfriend before then you’ve hit the right frequency at some point.
I guess it’s when you just walk up to a girl and start talking without really even knowing what you’re doing. Somehow you don’t fuck anything up. You feel like you’re acting very naturally- because you are.
Everything comes together and the momentum keeps the fledgling relationship going. It’s very important to keep up that momentum if you like where it’s going. If you have to fight anything at the beginning then it’s probably not going to work. You will have to put in effort; it just won’t feel like effort.
In a practical sense, I always have more success with women when my own life is more in order. Work on yourself and the rest will follow.
El Rivinado
> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 02:19 |
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Buddy, I wish I could help you. But speaking as 19 year old who hasn’t even kissed a girl, let alone dated one, I can’t help you. The only thing I can really offer is wait. I know that many not seem like a good idea (and believe, I’m frustrated with the waiting game myself at this point), but patience is a good thing to have. I truly believe that sometimes, it just happens when it happens. I will say this however, if you meet a girl who can brighten your day even through the smallest and most miniscule of gestures, hold onto her and don’t let her go. You may not be at that stage yet, but sometimes, the best things in life are the things that happen the slowest. I hope I have that luck someday with my friend, but considering that unlike me, you have experience, you’ve got a better shot than most. And again, this is cliché, but just do what you do best and be yourself.
Sneaky Pete
> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 03:41 |
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Try dating when you’re older...it’s all crap and single moms.
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> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 03:49 |
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The hard thing is to realize that if you want to find someone who will stick around, you can’t pretend to be anyone but who you are. Everyone tries to massage, because unless your a narcissistic sociopath you’re going to be nervous. That works if you’re just trying to get laid, nut you’re never going to find someone who really fits with you unless you let her see what you are. The best relationships I’ve been in evolved from casual friendships in class or at work or through hanging out with mutual friends, not dates.
Then again my sister is about to marry a awesome dude she met on OK Cupid so what do I know.
iSureWilll
> No, I don't thank you for the fish at all
12/19/2015 at 08:51 |
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Best way to get a woman is to be confident in who you are. Be yourself and do things you love. Focus on yourself and a girl will pop out of nowhere.